#14 Kenya: Kwaherini to All!
Tuesday, June 12, 2006
I really don’t want to leave. I must admit that leaving didn’t really sink in until about 10pm on my last night in Kirengero. But when I found myself saying goodnight to the kids for the very last time and then sitting in the library all by myself listening to some Tibetan mantras and typing up this blog, I felt like this really should not be it. It would be different if I knew that I could stay in touch with these kids or that I would see them again. But there is no guarantee of either one. I will definitively write letters to them, but not having access to computers and internet, it’s not going to be possible to communicate via email. As for regular mail, they don’t have money for stamps and I’m not guaranteed that any of them would write back, but I would like to hope that at least a few would. As for seeing them again, well, as much as I would love to come back, I have no idea when I’ll get the next opportunity – when I will have enough time or money. One day though. Yet goodbyes are so much harder when you know that they will most likely be long term or even permanent. In a way I’m glad that tomorrow the kids will be at school and will not be able to see me off.
It’s been a phenomenal 6 weeks here. I will cherish this experience for my whole life. The kids here are simply amazing and really do put things into perspective. We should truly appreciate everything that we have and complain a lot less. I don’t know any kids back home that get up at 5 in the morning to study for school, that go down to the river to fetch water before they leave in the morning, that will do all your dishes even with you attempting to refuse their help, and will continue smiling, dancing and singing around you. They never complain. They never whine. They do their chores. They help out whenever they can. They try. They work hard. They love life and all those around them – whether it would be the people in their life permanently – their brothers and sisters (from the home), their adopted ‘dad’ and ‘mom’ (James & Lucy) – or those who just appear in their lives for short periods of time and then return to their own distant lives – the volunteers. Add to this the picturesque setting and you truly have a small kind of paradise – much more so than anything found on Lamu.
In my last week here (without Robin :o( ), I finished off all the library jobs, finished the cataloguing, sorting, organizing and decorating. I got to share some of my photos with the kids – showing the slideshows from Nepal and Tibet as well as South-East Asia. They loved to see the pictures of the different parts of the world, plus learned a lot about geography, people, culture and just life. Many didn’t know what a mule was, or what other religions were like. They didn’t know where Malaysia was or that Thailand was not a flooded country, but rather had many beaches because it bordered the ocean. They’ve never heard of the Secret War on Laos which dropped a plane load of bombs every 8 minutes, 7 days a week, 365 days a year for 9 years nor had they every heard of the Khmer Rouge in Cambodia. They got to learn the Om Mani Padme Hum mantra as well as Daff Punk’s Around the World. So all around I was really glad that I got to share my travel experiences with them. It was a very simplified version and I’m sure that many of the younger ones didn’t understand much of what I said, but nevertheless, the got to see some of it and maybe became aware of more things.
That was essentially the way we spent our last evening together. We opted against them performing their usual song and dance routine for me (something that I have seen probably about two dozen times since having come here). Instead, after the photos from my travels we began watching video clips from my stay here: of the kids dancing, of them singing, from visitors day, us doing hand prints on the door, and everyone’s all-time favourite – Robin singing Killing me Softly while sweeping the library (with me hiding outside the window). They would ask for that clip to be played over and over – as well as any other clip that Robin or I were in.
It’s sad to leave and I really wish I could say that I will be back. I’ll miss these kids dearly, but as I’m sitting in the library I’m glad that Robin and I were able to leave something behind for them that they will appreciate on a daily basis. I agree that there are many things that can be done and are being done for them. Adrienne and Malaike painted the name “Njaaga’s Child Hope Home” at the entrance. They also sowed up some of the kids’ clothing and backpacks. Aogu and Marie built a basketball hoop and did face paints with the kids. However, sitting at the desks in the library, looking at the world maps hanging on the walls and the cork board on the other wall with the long list of signed out books pinned to it, I feel like this is somehow different. By no means do I want to say that Robin and I were better or had a better project. Everything matters and everything is appreciated by the kids. They remember every volunteer that came through this home and miss them dearly. But signing out the first book of Anne of Green Gables to Consolata or Little Woman to Mary and seeing Joseph, Samwel and a number of other boys playing with the marble maze set all day long, assembling and disassembling it just somehow makes it dearer to my heart. One of my best moments was yesterday seeing first the kids play with a multiplication board (that has sliding parts to reveal the results of your whole 10x10 multiplication table) and then have it taken over by the two Massai security guards who quizzed themselves and fumed and fussed whenever they got something wrong.
The library we’re leaving behind with Robin will serve not only as a memory of us, but will serve as a learning tool for the kids. The books are a great start. It wouldn’t be the same if not for all the boxes donated by Linda (from Canada). The games too will play an educational as well as entertaining role. Hopefully with time we’ll be able to help expand on this library – an encyclopaedia set would be fantastic, but more than anything, Robin and I will do our best to organize a number of computers for them – whether through fundraising, donations or collection of peoples’ old computers. I think it is definitively something that would help these kids out greatly. It would at least give them more equal chances of success as compared to kids in cities which have access to internet and computers on a daily basis.
But enough of my ranting about what we did or hope to do. The library is done (well, nearly done – Steve is coming tomorrow morning to nail the last shelf into the wall - he came today but without any tools – as befitting an African ‘carpenter’.) My bags are almost packed and tomorrow after lunch I head off to take my last matatu ride from Kirengero into Nakuru and then to James’ house. On the 14th I pick up Julita at the airport, have one day to take care of all my business in Nairobi and then it’s off on a 40 day safari through six countries all the way to Johannesburg. The postings from that part of the trip won’t be included in this blog, but rather will be posted separately under .
A few other concluding comments and remarks with regards to things that are on my mind or things that I had forgotten to mention beforehand.
While in Nairobi we caught a ‘disco’ back to James’ house. The matatu that we were taking (it was nearly 7pm so getting dark) had black lights in it, bright stickers on it’s windows depicting dancers and various other disco like images, and blaring incredibly loud disco/techno music. Not a bad right for someone who had a whole day of work and just wants to get home. But it was definitively entertaining.
Being on a big tour bus/truck must really suck. I hated the fact that when trying to shop/bargain in Nakuru everyone assumed I was a mzungu from one of the big trucks and would jack up their prices by 750% (from 40 shillings to 300 shillings). But I did go up to say goodbye to Moses for Robin and ended up being taken out for lunch by Thomas (another one of the vendors) who professed his love for me, told me he would wait for me to make my money in Canada and that the boyfriend that I told him I had back home would not mind or did not have to know. He then proceeded on to despair about the fact that we only met right before the time that I intended to be leaving because more time spent together would have allowed our relationship to grow immensely. That’s Kenya for you. And no worries – this is all innocent enough and part of a normal day’s work – at least that’s the impression I get. Everyone is super friendly and super nice. Although they propose marriage on the first sight of a white girl they by no means present any danger. It’s just talk and they probably try it out on every single person. Other than that though they are great to talk to and nice company. And by the way Robin – Moses says he hopes you had a safe flight and that you will come back and visit him one day.
On a sort of related note – every blond girl is the same person. On Saturday I went to the nearby town of Kambazi to watch a football (soccer for all you North Americans) game. The week before another blond volunteer had been there and everyone kept on calling me by her name, asking me what it was that I bought in a particular store and so forth even after I tried to tell them that this was my first time in Kambazi and that the girl they were referring to was someone else. They did take me into a photo studio though and insisted on getting a picture with me professionally done. This consisted of a guy standing us in front of some drapes and proceeding to pull out this antique camera that still had a wind button and snapping one picture that might be developed in a months time. Another example of blond girls being the same person was when I was taking a matatu back from Nakuru. The ticket guy asked me whether I was Diana and when I said that no I wasn’t, that Diana was another volunteer from Kirengero, he told me that Diana was his friend. At that I wondered why he would think that I was his friend since we had never met before, and I would have assumed that he would recognize his friend.
On Sunday Phyllis insisted on taking us to her church. I had wanted to see what the services were like here all along so I didn’t mind. Although the kids do their own service at the home, it is not the same thing and I was happy to go to Phyllis church. The service started out real nice with a lot of singing. The Africans are amazing at that. All they need is a set of drums, a metal ring to serve as one of those triangle like musical instruments and their voices. Seeing all the grandmas shaking their bums, singing at the top of their lungs and dancing while praising the Lord, was amazing. However, after over one hour of Kikuyu singing and praying I had finished my share of silent prayers and recollections. Yet their sermon went on and on and on and on. The actual sermon (which was a lady preaching in Kikuyu with every 50th word being in English) lasted for nearly 75 minutes. The whole service from beginning to end went on for more than three hours and proved to be more than I could handle. I don’t know if this is representative of African services in general or whether this was so because it was a Presbyterian parish and because they were celebrating Woman’s Guild Week. Overall I was glad that I went and got to see and experience it, but simultaneously wished that it had been shorter.
Mzungus tend to be the biggest attraction anywhere in these little villages. When I went to watch that football game in Kambazi, I had a crowd of kids sitting in front of me staring at me for over two hours as the football game was taking place behind their backs. The same held true at the church service where the kids sat in the benches in front of me and kept on staring a me rather than looking to the front of the church. It’s a really odd feeling. I felt like an attraction at a zoo – something/someone that people come to see and look at, poke at, touch, feed or simply observe. All I needed was a cage to be put into. On the other hand, most of them had never seen a mzungu before and the pinching and rubbing of our skin and pulling of blond hair can to a certain extent be justified or at least explained.
For a finishing note, here’s a list of my favourite questions (most asked by adults):
1. If the Tibetans hang prayer flags so that the wind can carry the prayers throughout the world for all of us, does that mean that there are demons flying around the entire world?
2. From the many leafs of marijuana growing on the side of the trials in Nepal I was interrogated whether I “PICKED” the one particular one that was featured in one of my photos (I had picked it so that I could take a photo of an individual leaf, rather than the whole patch of plants). But I felt like I was being interrogated by a Spanish Inquisitor that wanted to know whether I had in fact PICKED this leaf.
3. Is Tibet in Canada?
4. Will you drown in the ocean if you sink?
5. Is Thailand flooded?
6. Did I really eat snake?
7. What are thumbtacks for?
8. What is Lego?
9. Will I assist them with a electro-plast? (Meaning: can I please give them a band-aid)
10. What continent is Canada on?
11. Whether Hindus and Buddhists are idol worshippers?
12. How tall my mother and my sister are?
13. What is Canada’s cash crop? (this was a great question by a grade 6 student)
14. Who is the vice-president of Canada?
15. Whether I’m a sign-painter? (Meaning: am I capable of writing nice even letters on a wall, door etc.)
16. What I would give them so that they could remember me and never forget me? (A polite way of begging, maybe?)
17. What a desk lamp is for?
18. Singing the national anthem in the movie theater before the movie starts. Everyone dutifully stood as the flag waved on the screen!